Roles are fixed. Husband: field, barn, workshop, money (earns and manages). Wife: home, kitchen, garden, children (bears and raises). Crossovers: both in church, both at table, both decide major purchases.
Power
Husband is head of family (biblically). Final word — his. But: a smart wife influences through 'counsel' (not order, not argument — gentle suggestion). Amish saying: 'Husband is the head. Wife is the neck. Neck turns the head wherever it wants.'
Wife's Work
Cooks (3 times daily, for 8-10 people). Washes (by hand, no machine). Sews (all family clothes). Cans (300-500 jars/year). Bears children (5-8 times). Raises them. Cleans. Milks (sometimes). Garden. Chickens. Cheese. Bread. Butter. Pies for market. 'Housewife' is imprecise. 'CEO of household operations' — closer.