Amish dating is a secret. Even from parents (though everyone knows — small community). Begins after singing (Sunday evening, youth sing hymns).
Process
Boy drives girl home after singing. In an open buggy (courting buggy — no roof, everyone sees). If she agrees — a sign. If second time — serious. Third — basically engaged.
Rules
No kissing in public. No touching (hand okay — nothing more). No gifts (except practical — apron, gloves). Everything in daylight. Everything visible. Darkness = bundling (separate story).
Choice
Choice limited to community (30-40 families, 5-10 girls/boys of right age). So singing is regional: 3-4 communities together. Expands choice to 20-30. Amish Tinder — Sunday evening, 30 people, hymns, buggy.