Rumspringa (ages 16-22): Amish youth can 'try the world.' Including dating English people.

Options

Quiet Rumspringa (80%): dating within community. Singing, buggies, bundling. Maximum — secret beer. Loud Rumspringa (20%): parties, cars, phones, English girlfriends/boyfriends. Sometimes serious relationships with English.

Cross-Cultural Couples

Amish boy + English girl: she's charmed (quiet, strong, handy). He's charmed (jeans, music, freedom). After 3 months: her: 'Why don't you answer calls?' Him: 'I don't have a phone.' Her: '...'

Outcome

85-90% return to community. Marry Amish. English girlfriend/boyfriend — a memory. Warm. Sad. Impossible. Two worlds don't mix.